I have an inner eye roll every time I read or hear the phrase “self-care.” The idea smacks of narcissism to me and brings up images of weekly mani-pedis at the salon and buying expensive purses because “I’m worth it.” Plus, it just sounds expensive. I hear that I need to take better care of myself and I think, “How much is this going to cost me?” It’s also something easily put on the back burner when you’ve got two people growing inside of you who need care, and two people growing outside of you who need care, not to mention a husband who could use a little TLC occasionally. Never mind the dog. There’s just a lot of people to take care of in my house.
To take care of others, though, we ourselves need to be healthy and well. In the moment, it may seem easier to just eat the leftover mac & cheese from your kid’s plate at lunch rather than cook for yourself. It might be easier to read another book or sing another song at bedtime, despite the fact that you really could use a 15-minute reading break yourself. If you are a born & bred people pleaser, like I am, it’s hard to disappoint people – especially the ones you love more than life itself – by saying, “You know what, right now I need a few minutes to myself.”